And it gets even more screwed up...

I mean really - how did I get so lucky to have two bad weeks in a row?

And what is so eff'ed up is that I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO BE POSITIVE!

wow - so yesterday I get an email out of nowhere telling me that I am talking about them on facebook, and to take it down or they are sueing me for slander.

Ok people -I haven't said a word about anyone

I kindly responded, "i have no idea what you are talking about - please send me a screen shot of what you mean"

Of course I have received nothing except another nasty email that if I don't take it down they are going to the police.

That's nice. Maybe then I will get to see what apparently I wrote. (making circular motion with one hand while pointing at my head)

This same person has been talking to my husband about a family intervention because they have issues with me and they want to address them. (oh by the way - it was my mother that was emailing me above - I can't make this stuff up)

So my husband and mom are talking about me and having this big family meeting. I asked my husband what I did wrong, what exactly is the issue that they want to bring up. He says that my mom wants to talk to me because she thinks I need to work things out with her (i refuse to talk to her after called me names and degraded me and called me a liar about what my stepdad did) and she claims that my brothers don't feel close to me so they never want to come here.

Ok weird, I invite them many times to our house, or the kids recitals and events, or if I am going out with some girlfriends I have invited them to come hang out. They always turn me down....sooooo I guess that reason is they don't feel close to me. Alrightly then, I am not really sure - other than invite them to spend time with me and the family to get close, oh and they don't call me, don't write me, nothing, so I am not sure why they have a problem, as I haven't seen them do anything to fix it.

Oh and I know for a fact that me posting this, is going to REALLY SUPER piss everyone off. Because it's completely ok to talk about me to my husband, and amongst themselves, (and gang up on me) and it is absolutely not ok for me to blog about it to complete strangers.

Where does this leave me? Well I do feel a little better having venting, so that is bonus. (see - I am trying to be positive) - however, I still feel very violated that my best friend - my husband participated in this conversation.

I think I need to address that, and find out exactly how he is feeling or was his participation to stand up for me....

Either way - I feel so damn violated right now.

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Top Ten 2012 Jewelry Trends

All right my divas...so I have been doing some research and believe I have found the top ten trends for 2012 (spring only) for jewelry. Starting from the top:

10. Choker Necklaces
9. Anything Blue
8. Crosses
7. Handmade Jewelry - (wow this works for me!)
6. Antique or Victorian look
5. Floral designs
4. Chandelier Earrings
3. Gold with gemstones
2. The Chunkier the better
1. Gold Gold and more Gold - colored anyways, precious metals are out, vintage is in
So I am a little disappointed that the choker necklaces did not rank higher as I was getting ready to lay out and prepare a new line of chokers....guess I will put that on the back burner.

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As we wind down the year

For me this is a time of reflection as well as anticipation and planning.  I think when we all look back over the year we find ourselves saying "I wish I did this" or come up with a new years resolution under the theme of self improvement.  A new year plays this trick on us, setting the mental stage that we have a fresh start, that by changing the calendar we are throwing out the old and in with the new.  I happen to think that this is a wonderful thing.   So what is my new years resolution?
Well you're reading it.  I decided to start a blog, that is intended to be focused around my business, with personal insights.  Very odd combination, but let me explain.  Over this past year, my first year of running 'designs by bella' I have been very fortunate to make some good friends, and I enjoyed many conversations and laughs and even tears with my customers, turned cyber buddies.  I realized, as I sat down doing my Virgo thing of analyzing my 2011, that 'bella' was (is) an outlet for me, as well as an opportunity to reach hundreds of people.  To share creativity, to share my designs, and to share a small moment.  I never labeled myself as a vendor, in fact, I wanted to, through my jewelry, was to give  someone a delicate piece, an inspiration of beauty. A number of my designs extend well beyond what is listed on my site, and they are more personal in nature.   Often enough I am ask to create a special piece, by request, and to me that is a challenge, yet the most fun.  Designing for an individual that you don't personally know, creates anxiety for me, because every piece I create, cannot be less than perfect.  But when there is success, it is the most incredible feeling.
So with all that being said, my blog will be personal, as well as business orientated, as that I believe is how I have always felt about 'bella'.
So what is on the plate for this year....well lots to say on this front.  First as a few of you know, I lost my job in November/December 2011.  So I am looking to change that, and actually may have some very good news on that front later today....However, to be clear, this was a blessing.  Naturally a financial disaster as well, but truly a blessing in terms of myself, in terms of 'bella' and in terms of the laforge household. I needed time off, I needed time to reset myself, and I needed that fresh start in terms of career. Having been traumatized in my previous work environment by long hours, unreal expectations, and the usual office politics, I needed time to break bad work habits, to think about my long term goals and to re-energize my work avatar... you know, that person you play in the office.
I also needed time to think.
And I needed time to accommodate my business demands, I am pleased to say that we have tripled our sales this Christmas season from the prior year, and even more pleased to say that 1/3 of my sales was the result of repeat business.   WOW. So I really need to keep going with this 'bella' thing.  Pandora really should look out. LOL
And on that note....I have a ton more product that I am lining up for 2012 as well as for valentine's day.  First you will notice that there are a couple of pieces of fine jewelry.  I wanted to bring the look and feel of diamonds, without the price.  So I found a manufacturer that makes 18ktep white gold jewelry inset with colored crystals.  Perfect for small gifts to mom, or a friend, without spending hundreds.  Next, we will be listing some new "heart" beads in sterling silver in time for valentine's day.  I am going to look into getting some plated silver ones to accommodate smaller wallets, but I have an order placed now for a bunch of sterling silver charms in time for February.
You will also notice some non-jewelry items....well I have been practicing sewing, and found that I could create really neat items, mostly in terms of cushions/pillows, but the ideas I have - I am sure that you will see quite the expansion of items in this area.  My absolutely, new favorite is the dining room chair cushions in gold and brown tones.  I always wanted a set of cushions that were elegant and classy...never found one in stores that was reasonable in terms of price and style....so I made them myself, and my Christmas guests - including my master sewer, mother in law, was even impressed!
Wow - I guess I had a ton to say this morning, if you actually made it through this blog, I hope you find yourselves well, and surrounded by your loved ones, this holiday season.  As you get ready for the new year, remember one thing, that if you don't hold true, to whatever goal you set for yourself on January 1st, it doesn't mean you failed, it just means that the following day can be your January 1st, as everyday is a fresh start.  So don't give up!!
Stay well my friends,
xoxo - Jessica